Laurie Puhn

Laurie has a Bachelors Degree and a Law Degree from Harvard University. She specializes in Couples Mediation to Stay Together and regularly meets with couples and individuals in her private practice to help them establish new communication habits that will quickly end conflict and re-energize their relationship.

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Fight Less, Love More The Course

Fight Less, Love More The Course

Course Testimonials

“The course got to the root of our problems and we didn’t need hours and months of counseling to solve them. All we needed was the Fight Less, Love More Course . 

The online virtual format  felt like all the couples and course leader were in one room together.

It was great and we didn’t have to leave our home. Taking this course was one of the best things we ever did for our marriage!” 
– John and Melissa N., Coloma, MI

” We have seen the results, now anytime we disagree on something we have a way to discuss it that brings results not frustration. A great class.”
– Meredith and Tom, KS

“This class was amazing! It gave us the chance to openly acknowledge and confront actual situations that we have with each other in a way that gives respect. We’ve been married for twenty three years but every couple, however long they’ve been married, should learn the concepts that this class offers. It would be great for engaged couples too. Thank you Family Dynamics and Laurie Puhn for such an amazing class.”
– Dawn and Steve, OK

“This class really did help us to fight less and love more. It was great to learn the different kinds of conversations and have examples of them to read and learn from. Then to try them out and see how well they worked is helping my husband and I in a number of ways. Thanks it is a great class!”
– Wendy and Mike, OH

“We think this is a perfect starter class for your marriage, we wish we had learned these conversation styles before we were married, would have stopped a lot of stupid arguments. It was an easy and actually fun course to take.”
– Marty and Lynn, TX

Course Description

Bestselling author, Harvard lawyer and couples mediator Laurie Puhn of Laurie Puhn Communications, in partnership with the non-profit Marriage Dynamics Institute, bring you powerful communication and conflict resolution tools in the Fight Less, Love More Course. Based on her book Fight Less, Love More: 5-Minute Conversations to Change Your Relationship without Blowing Up or Giving In, this nationwide course teaches couples the vital skills needed to grow lasting love. In each of the nine one-hour classes, you will experience the benefit of using the 5-Minute Conversations to avoid and reduce conflict, increase appreciation, intimacy and respect, give a perfect apology and create a personalized daily communication routine that will keep your marriage strong and healthy for a lifetime. Whether you are a couple who wants to enrich your marriage, or are engaged to be married, or seeking to keep love alive, this step-by-step course is perfect for you.

Class Session Topics Include:

  • Tame Rudeness & Inspire Appreciation
  • Be More Lovable & Criticize with Influence
  • Short-Circuit Arguments & How to Have a Good Fight
  • Kick Start Intimacy & Deter Cheating
  • Control Overreactions & Negotiate for Love
  • Reject Stubbornness & Disarm the Know-it-All
  • Keep It Confidential & Awaken Your Silent Mate
  • Orchestrate the Perfect Apology & Be Optimistic

How the Course Works:

Guided Resources: Fight Less, Love More Leader book, Student Workbooks and DVD. Utilizing these resources with a facilitator, which can be YOU learning the material for the first time, couples examine communication problems and hidden patterns of interaction while learning new concepts about relationships and specific conflict resolution and verbal skills to enhance love, respect, appreciation, compassion and intimacy.

Guided Activities: Each week, couples complete a series of assignments that reinforce the lesson learned the week before and introduce new concepts for the week ahead. In class, couples practice using the new verbal skills in 5-minute conversations and receive positive feedback from peers.

Guided Questions: Weekly, the group meets to discuss and apply the skills taught in that week’s lesson. Throughout the course, the group helps reinforce new verbal skills and support the growth of all the couples.

Guided Group Interaction: Through interacting with other couples who are learning and challenging themselves too, a unique support and accountability system occurs. The varying personalities and life experiences of the group creates stimulating discussions and an encouraging environment for change. By the end of the course, you and your spouse have come together to create a new, more fulfilling way of living, loving and understanding each other. You now have the skills to fight less and love more every day.…

Fight Less, Love More newly released in audiobookas it hits its 13th Printing in Paperback!

Fight Less, Love More newly released in audiobookas it hits its 13th Printing in Paperback!

Publisher’s Weekly Rave Review
Fight Less, Love More: 5-Minute Conversations to Change Your Relationship without Blowing Up or Giving In
Laurie Puhn, Rodale, $24.99 (256p) ISBN 9781605295985 

As a Harvard-trained family and divorce lawyer and couples mediator, Puhn is extremely well qualified to speak to communication difficulties in relationships.

In this book, she outlines tactics to improve communication, avoid unhealthy behaviors, and better appreciate your partner that are simple to implement, remarkably effective, and will benefit couples in relationships troubled and healthy alike.

With advice that is nonjudgmental, extremely efficient, and clearly understandable, Puhn covers all aspects of romantic relationships, from problems like infidelity to boundaries giving couples of every strip something of benefit.

Sections, chapters, and goals are clearly delineated and well positioned, with research bubbles (adultery is often a consequence of believing that one’s marriage is already in trouble) and quotes from the familiar (Oprah) to the refreshing (Churchill) make for a light, easy read.

Eschewing frustrating vagaries, sweeping generalizations, and gender-based assumptions, Puhn’s extremely specific guide focuses on simple, rational solutions that primarily revolve around maintaining respect for one’s partner.

Readers will gain a great deal from her contribution to the genre.

Praise From The Nation’s Top Experts:

Most everyone I know would be willing to invest 5 minutes a day to improve their relationship. 

Laurie Puhn shows us how to use those few minutes to build lasting love. I highly recommend Fight Less, Love More.
-Gary Chapman, Ph.D, New York Times Bestselling author of The Five Love Languages

“Women and men may be from different planets, but Laurie Puhn’s insightful advice will show them how to speak the same language and create a relationship of mutual respect and support. 

Fight Less Love More makes the considerable task of improving your relationship astonishingly simple, and gives couples the tools they need to create their own happiness.”
 John Gray, New York Times Bestselling author of Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

“Laurie Puhn offers a no-frills book about how to have a great relationship. 

Fight Less, Love More  contains brilliant and precise advice; the underlying implication being that healthy, loving couples are sane and smart–a sentiment that shines through on every page of clear, sensible information .

I would recommend it as required reading for any couple.”

-Harville Hendrix, Ph. D. New York Times Bestselling author of Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples

“Perhaps no conflict is more problematic for more people than that between partners and spouses.  

In this practical handbook, Laurie Puhn offers sound and pithy advice for today’s time-pressed couples on how to deal with their differences in a smart and kind manner.”

William Ury, New York Times Bestselling Co-author of Getting to Yes and author of The Power of a Positive No. Co-founder of the Harvard Negotiation Project

The Books: Fight Less, Love More & Instant Persuasion
Publishers Weekly gives Fight Less, Love More a Rave Review!

Fight Less, Love More hits #1 in 2012 on Amazon’s list
of 100 top selling books in love and relationships

The Paperback Edition of Fight Less, Love More will be released in September 2012 to accompany the hardcover and e-book editions.

Foreign rights have been sold for both books

Fight Less, Love More is a Wall Street Journal Bestseller

Book Page selects Fight Less, Love More as a “Top Lifestyle Book Pick”

Instant Persuasion was nominated for Best Motivational Book by
the Better Life Awards

Starbucks features Fight Less, Love More in stores

Army and Air Force turn to Fight Less, Love More, which is now
sold in many exchanges (AAFES) across the world

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Fight Less, Love More Description

Harvard-trained lawyer and family and divorce mediator Laurie Puhn shows busy couples how to stop fighting and start communicating.

It happens every day—a simple exchange or harmless response turns into a heated debate or worse, an all-out battle. Hard-pressed for quality time with our partners and spouses, it’s easy to fall into a poor communication routine. How can two people who love one another so much have such difficulty talking to one another?

Drawing on her expertise in legal mediation and conflict resolution, Laurie Puhn’s fresh approach gives simple, 5-minute conversations that will instantly improve communication—as well as the quality of relationships.

In Fight Less, Love More, learn how to identify and conquer the poor verbal habits, instinctive responses, and emotional reasoning that can cloud judgment and ultimately lead to the deterioration of otherwise healthy relationships.

Love is conditional, argues Puhn, and for love to survive, couples don’t need to talk more—they need to talk better. With exercises, examples, and sample scripts, Puhn’s simple 5-minute strategies promise immediate results and provide long-lasting communication skills that couples can confidently employ when faced with future conflict.…

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